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What is Shadow Work?

Hi there! I hope you are doing well, sending love and peace your way! As we continue our journey of self love, self-discovery and individuation it is important that we are honest with ourselves, that you stand powerful in your vulnerability.

The ability to stand strong in ones own vulnerability is a strength. Understandably, this may be difficult as it involves standing bare in front of self bringing dark into the light, highlighting the parts you would rather remain hidden. You are an amazing human being, full of love, grace and endless potential but within all that are parts of self you may not be free with admitting.

Today our focus is the getting insight on what the shadow self is, what shadow work is and how to do shadow work

 “Everyone carries a shadow, and the less it is embodied in the individual’s conscious life, the blacker and denser it is.”

– Carl Jung (Swiss Psychiatrist and Psychoanalyst)

What is the Shadow Self?

The shadow self is the parts of who you are that is suppressed into your subconscious, the parts which you yourself perceive as dark and weak about yourself. It is based on the notion that we bury parts of our personality that we do not want to identify.

What comes to mind when you think of ‘shame’ ‘sadness’ or fear’?

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Your shadow self is formed from early childhood, while you were dependent on parents/caregivers forming an attachment that needed you to compromise and do things their way. This subconsciously influences your behavior and shadow self. Your shadow self, although subconscious shows itself in daily life as it influences your behavior, your beliefs and life as a whole.

For example, if you were scolded for speaking your mind this could create a subconscious shadow that now holds you back from free self expression and speaking out. A little boy in tears told “Boys don’t cry” and “Act like a man” may find difficulty opening up in the future. Personally, I grew up in a strong family where vulnerability and sadness was seen as weakness and due to the reactions from when I was sensitive, I struggled with being in touch with my sensitive side and self expression.

Sound familiar? In what ways did others influence you?

We all have a shadow self, whether you are aware of it or not it plays a role in your daily life and show itself as self-sabotage if one does not address the subconscious and heal.

What is Shadow Work?

Shadow work is a way of working on your inner self, casting a light on parts hidden away revealing the deepest parts of your psyche. It is is the process of bringing forth unconscious shadows into the light.

Very often we tend to focus on our conscious minds but unless the necessary inner work is done the shadow self will continue to creep up and sabotage you holding you back from your full potential, your full power.

How to do Shadow Work

Shadow work is all about making the unconscious conscious. Through our journey we have talked about being more self aware and mindful, by questioning and diving deeper into self you can get to the root of your shadow and begin the healing process.

1.Integrate Both Darkness and Light

When manifesting the life of your dreams and embracing the journey means embracing all that you are. Yes, you want a positive life, looking to the bright side of situations and working on the law of attraction so focusing on the positive but unless you also connect to your dark side you will be yet to connect to self fully. Owning who you are in entirety will help you with individuation, self-validation and manifestation. This does not mean that when angry you act out destructively or wallowing in your sadness, this means acknowledging the emotions, knowing they are valid and uncover its roots. How can you use it to your advantage? Personally, I feel more motivated and inspired when I use my ‘darker’ emotions.

2. Uncover Shadow Self

In order for you to connect and heal your shadow self you must first uncover and acknowledge them. You can uncover your shadow self through mindful practices that make you more self aware. I recommend meditation as it calms the mind and creates a natural flow. Do not fight your mind on this, allow your mind to flow, when a thought jumps in do not fixate but instead let them flow in and out. Pay attention to where you mind goes and asking yourself, why?

Mind too busy? Ask yourself why. To help you try playing calm nature sounds in the background or stare at a candle flame.

Another helpful practice is journalling, which creates an open space for you to fully express self and identify your shadows.

3. Identify Triggers

Pay close attention to your mind, body and soul. How are you doing? What makes you feel triggered? Where are you? What are you doing? Who are you with ? How do you feel?

“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” 

Carl Jung

Journalling will help you notice patterns and highlight your triggers. Once you identify that feeling, that trigger think back to when you first felt this way. Try your best to remember details as this will help you interrupt the pattern.

4. Make Intentional Changes

Uncovering your shadow self and recognizing that part of self gives you the power to take back the control in your life. When unaware of your subconscious thoughts and scars it shows itself in different ways in your life. By making the subconscious conscious you are able to control your reactions; emotional, physical and cognitive.

Interrupt your pattern by changing your thoughts, emotions and reactions to a situation. Feeling triggered? Ask yourself why and once uncovered be brave and allow the process of growth to take over.

Remember, change does not happen overnight, put in the work and connect to self on a deeper level.

How do you know when you’ve healed a shadow? It will no longer trigger you.

I wish you all the best in your journey xx

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Everything is Energy. Including YOU.

Hello you and welcome back to my page! If it’s your first time, welcome to the family! I hope you are doing fantastic, glowing and growing. I’ve been great and happy with the feedback from the Journal Series and from chatting with ya’ll! Awesome community we’ve got going here 🙂

Today we’re going to talk about something that is both inside and around us; energy. Look around you, what do you see? What are the objects around you made of? Everything you can see, hear, touch and smell is made up of different wavelengths vibrating at different frequencies. Your brain has the ability to interpret the energy clusters around you as object such as a chair.

Quantam physics revealed that everything is made from an energy force, including you. Everything is made up of energy. We tend to focus on the physical part of life but science proves that we are in an energy vortex, the world is not split into the material realm and energy realm. Everything is made of atoms, neutrons, and electrons, physicists looked further and found even smaller particles, such as quarks and ultimatey found at the core of it all was an energy field, not a physical material.

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Touch your arm, look at your being. You are made up of energy even though you may perceive yourself as a physical structure. We are energy vortices experiencing an energy field.

Here’s the best part, science proves that you are special. As we continue the self love journey and discover selves I continue to emphasize that, you are unique and that is your power. You are a special being, on a unique journey, seeing and experiencing the world differently with your own unique contributions to the world.

The world outside of self is made up of energy and we pick up on those frequenices. That’s why it’s so important to be aware of the energy around you and stay away from energy vampires. Some people are more sensitive to the energy around them than others. This is because as we live in an energy force field we are all experiencing life differently through different antennas. The energy field affects each one of us differently as you have your own unique vibrations.

Do you take the time to be introspective? Do you know who you are at the core of it all? This is crucial as you being unique comes with your own unique power and contributions to the universe. Claim it.

Although we cannot percieve the ocean of energies around us with our five senses they have great effect on us. You walk through the energy field in a physical form, a form made up of energies flowing. Spiritually, we are souls experiencing this life on earth using our physical forms as a vessel.

What are your thoughts on the soul and spirit? Let me know.

The Energy Boomerang

Remember, you are made up of energy and so is everything around you, meaning you are connected to all that is around you. Now, great power comes with great responsibility yes? The energy you give out through your thoughts and actions do affect the world around you. Use this knowledge to help you live as your highest version of self because yess your thoughts also have a frequency and what you send out comes back like a bommerang with greater force.

Your thoughts matter because you are part of a universal consciousness. Be careful with how you speak about self and self sabotaging thoughts.

Don’t believe your thoughts have frequency?

Scientists use an electroencephalogram (EEG) test to measure electrical brain activity. Without getting too scientific, small metal discs are attached to one’s scalp and your brain communicates via electrical impluses. This shows that our thoughts do carry energy and vibrate at different frequencies.

Positive thoughts have higher frequency than negative ones. Remember, energy flows where intention goes. If you are constantly having negative thoughts your being will emit and attract low frequency levels.

If you think the world is a horrible place and bad things always happen to you, guess what? That is what you will attract. You have the power to take control and reprogram your subconscious mind. For more on the power of self talk, click here.

What do you know about the Law of Attraction? Let me know below.

I urge you to look at the universe through a different lense, allowing you to see it all in a different way. You are powerful, your thoughts are powerful. Affirm and manifest the life you wish.

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Love and Peace

Fayne A. Soida

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33 Affirmations that Will Help You

In a previous post we talked about the Power of Affirmations and the grande effect they have on your subconscious mind. Your thoughts hold emmence power, from words of self encouragement to the sly comments you take as jokes. Positive affirmations release you from negative energy and patterns such as worry, anxiety, doubt and fear.

It’s important to be mindful, your subconcious is listening. Learn to speak to yourself with love, compassion and encouragement. Pay attention to the hidden messages in your thoughts and words, watch your tongue as it holds great power.

  • “there’s no way that could work”.
  • “I can’t do it”
  • “It’s going to be another one of those days”
  • “That’s just my luck”
  • “I’m not creative”
  • “I’m too shy”
  • “I’m realy out of shape”
  • “I don’t look good”

STOP IT! Your subconcious is unable to recognise what you want and don’t but instead focusing on what you’re paying attention to. Energy flows where your intention goes. However, this does not mean that you should ignore and bottle up your emotions. Recognise your emotions, especially the negative ones because that it where healing begins, when you come face to face with your hurt and fears. Healing the wound so as to no longer hurt from them.

Be open with yourself, trust yourself and be vulnerable, in that write down a negative thought that bothers you and a positive counterpart. Example.

“Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve”

Napoleon Hill (Self-help author)

You are what you think

What are your thoughts on this phrase?

What do you tell yourself? Are you kind to yourself? How is your relationship with self? Much too often do I hear or see people looking for love and acceptance outside of self and wondering why the well runs dry. What happens when the likes and comments run dry? When you can’t call your friend to give you a boost? When it is only you

Be your own cheerleader, your own best friend.

Benefits of Daily Affirmations

Daily affirmations allow you to reprogram your mind from negative thought patterns and help you feel positive and confident. Repeating affirmations daily will influence your subconcious and motivate you. Don’t worry it may feel uncomfortable, odd or even a bit silly as you start but in the morning look at yourself in the mirror and repeated affirmations that resonate with you. Make this your morning ritual and you will feel your soul begin to reap the benefits.

  1. I awaken grateful for today and I choose happiness.
  2. I have an aura of positive energy surrounding me.
  3. My life is filled with happiness, love and peace.
  4. I believe in the power of positivity.
  5. I am protected.
  6. I believe in my strength.
  7. I speak life into my work.
  8. I speak life into my vision.
  9. I am grateful for the gift of life.
  10. I choose to be happy, i deserve and claim happiness.
  11. I protect my energy and release all negativity.
  12. Being happy comes easy to me.
  13. I am grateful to have people in my life who are good for me
  14. I am abundant.
  15. I am worthy of love and respect.
  16. I am proud of who I am becoming.
  17. I allow myself to be who i am without judgment
  18. I give myself permission to do what is right for me.
  19. I forgive myself and set myself free.
  20. I listen to my intuition and trust my inner guide.
  21. I am becoming closer to my true self everyday.
  22. I put my energy into things that matter to me.
  23. I have the freedom and power to create the life I desire.
  24. My possibilities are endless
  25. I choose to see the positive.
  26. I choose to release all negativity.
  27. I choose to focus on the positive, as i remember energy flows where intention goes.
  28. I choose to be grateful.
  29. I choose to be happy.
  30. I choose to surround myself with those who make me happy.
  31. I choose how to respond to circumstances.
  32. I choose to focus on things that feel good.
  33. I am allowing myself to be consistently and genuinely happy.
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Have you read my more detailed post The Power of Affirmations? Please do as it explains further. I hope this was helpful Xx Do you practice daily affirmations?

-Love and Peace-

Fayne A. Soida

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Why It’s Important to Know Who You Are

How well do you know yourself? No, not your name, age, family history or where you grew up or went to school. I mean really know who you are at the core of it all. Beyond social media and the influence of friends and peers.

How connected are you to who you truly are?

Self love is one of the most important things in life, the world is forever changing and so are the people around you. Not to be morbid but at the end of the day you’ve got yourself, you’re the one you can fully rely on. People change, their opinions and feelings may waver, others may just be cruel and attack you, forgetting the power of the tongue. Through all that, self love is your amour, your relationship with yourself plays a big factor on how all of this affects you and as you continue down the journey of self love you need to first learn more about yourself, know who you are. Because, how can you love someone that you do not know? Sounds like trying to remember someone you’ve never met, no?

In a previous post we talked about Individuation , which I described as the process through which you fully embody who you are and embrace your individuality, leaving you without care for societal standards and benchmarks. Achieving a sense of differentiating your own identity from those of others, allowing you to consciously exist in the world as yourself.

When you know who you are, where you stand on different matters, your beliefs and what is important to you the opinions and pressures of the outside world doesn’t pick at you, trying to mold you into who they want you to be or want you to do.

To fully individuate you need to first learn who you are. So, who are you? Take a moment and think about it. Let’s search a little deeper.

Bare with me, really think about it and then we’ll go through just why this is so important.

To truly love yourself is a love that is unconditional. To achieve this, you need to know different aspects of who you truly are.

Learning how to be vulnerable in your own eyes is important because only you fully know and understand your story, your emotions, what insecurities you tuck away, what scares you and what doubts you may have. They are nothing to be ashamed of, we are creatures that are always evolving, do not fear the process.

Are you comfortable in your vulnerability ?

Vulnerability, a topic I definitely want to dive further into as the fear of vulnerability continues to be far too common. Misunderstood as weakness and feared but honey, in your vulnerability lays your truth and strength.It is in that vulnerability that you fully learn who you are, the bright and the hidden and in that you learn to love yourself unconditionally.

Know Your Strengths

When working our strengths you feel in your element, doing things with ease and interests because

let’s face we when you’re good at something you tend to like it more. Work on those strengths and nurture them. What are your strengths? When is it that you feel in your element? What do you do with ease and keenly? If you can’t think of what you’re strengths are ask those around you that know you well.

Know Your Weaknesses

We don’t like acknowledging our weaknesses because it may make you feel weak but I assure you there is nothing wrong with having weaknesses. Don’t be too hard on yourself but instead make your goal to better them and turn them into strengths give yourself time and a plan to work towards your goal. Remember we’re working on unconditional love.

Know Your Values and Beliefs

This comes down to what you stand for. What is important to you?

I believe in love, encouragement and overall positive energy. For that reason if I’m with people that belittle others and are unkind especially if it’s all to make them feel above I will speak my mind in defense of the person and remove myself from that situation. Above all i trust energy and my intuition, energy doesn’t lie.

Know What You Love and Hate

It’s very important to know what you love, what makes you happy, fulfilled and calm. Learn more about yourself and look into your passions. Knowing what you hate, what isn’t for you helps you set boundaries, both with yourself and other people. Knowing this helps you take care of yourself.

Personally I’m an introvert and although they are people that may know me as social i know that i need to recharge after a while. Some alone time with a good book, soul music, writing or art helps me do that. What about you? Knowing what i hate helps me set boundaries, I love to be surrounded with good positive energy so when it comes to people speaking down on others or anything of that sort I know to leave the situation and they know it’s not for me.

Know Your Purpose

Knowing your purpose fills you with motivation to get out of bed and start what you need to do. In a way that doesn’t feel forced and drags you to do it but instead motivates you from within. It does not have a deadline but instead is something that makes you feel fulfilled. You may not know what your purpose is right now and that’s alright. Yet another reason to explore who you are and learn more about yourself.

I believe my purpose is making a difference and impacting lives, be it from my writing, people i talk to, strangers or friends to my charity helping sweet little girls who have been victim to female genital mutilation and early forced marriages. I noticed the difference I would make and the attention I would always give to the ‘underdog’ making sure to reassure them and the greater difference it made. I started paying attention when people would get back to me, saying i’m easy to talk to especially when it came to real things or the difference I made on how they viewed things. People simply want to b heard.

Take some time and think about what your purpose is and align yourself to it.

Why It’s Important to Know Yourself

Fall in love with your individuality

Knowing yourself, your interests, beliefs, what you love to do, how you love to spend your time, how you love to dress, music you enjoy, movies and everything about you and strongly standing in your unconditional love for self shuts off the noise that is the world. In a position where you may not fully be yourself in fear of alienation, being seen as odd because you are different from what society, your friends or parents say you should be, you will no longer play the part of a chameleon and change to fit but instead know and love that what makes you different is what makes you unique, what makes you special.

You are special, don’t you want to embrace it?

I am unique and that is my Power.

Independence

Falling in love with your individuality ensures that you are in charge of your own thoughts and personality. You know your values, your goals and your dreams and so you know what does not align with your path and the steps you need to take to stay on that path and achieve your goals. After all, you do take care of those you love, right? So take care of yourself.

Confidence and Value

Many times what may cause you to have low confidence or not see your value is that you may compare yourself to other people. Especially in the age of social media where you spend hours (especially now that you’re quarantined) scrolling through social media and seeing the best of people you might start comparing yourself to them. Learning to love yourself and accepting and embracing individuality is a key reminder that everyone is different, you do not need to be like another person in order to be happy.

Once you stand tall in your authenticity you’ll notice your confidence rise. You will be aware of your worth and your value even when a person comes short of seeing it you know what’s important is how you see yourself and feel, being or working towards being the highest version of yourself.

Know yourself and you will know your true power. Embrace it and love yourself unconditionally and you are invincible.

Don’t you want that? Go for it.

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Individuating in a Uniform Society

Individuation, the process that enables one to truly embody who they are and embrace their individuality leaving them without care for societal standards and benchmarks. The sense of differentiating one’s own identity from those of others, allowing them to consciously exist in the world.

Self-actualization, the path of self-discovery and exploration. It can truly be both a thrilling yet painful process. Society has become more outspoken on self-love but the conversation became less about truth and more about trend and style. Social media has glorified mental health care, threw on a filter and a good playlist and has fooled some to think that is where it ends. This is not to put down the quotes, skin care, baths, nature walk tips and the likes because they too can help lift a person’s spirits, it becomes an issue when that is where the conversation ends and a line is drawn. Because on the other side of that line is the not so pretty parts of mental health that should also be normalized as a conversation and not speak about depression and anxiety behind our screens while stigma still infects the society and conversations considered too real, are too much.

On the path of self-discovery and self-realization fear and doubt must be attacked first and left behind because in this path ties in the long life journey of individuation. This is the sense of self in a world controlled by trends and opinions from all directions. Be it friends, family, people you hold in high regard or those you despise, in order to individuate and truly be your own person you must individuate your wants from theirs.

Remember when I said it is a thrilling yet painful process this is where the rollercoaster begins but you must learn that the important part is to be honest and true to yourself. As you read this don’t simply scan over it, you’re here on my blog for a reason, reading this for a reason. Be honest with yourself. Plus no one will know what you’re reflecting on unless you tell them right? So why not be honest with yourself?

How many times has fear held you back from truly experiencing the moment? Ever wanted to just be free and fully live in the moment? When you wanted to dance and enjoy it all but you keep your dancing to yourself because well, you don’t think you’re the best at it. How you wanted to grab that opportunity but didn’t take the chance because you figured you wouldn’t be chosen anyway, holding yourself back from your business opportunity because of the lack of self belief. Keeping to yourself not because you necessarily want to but because all that goes through your mind is…you don’t look like them, speak like them…Holding back on posting that picture because it doesn’t look … perfect, unlike the pictures that flood the internet. When you ‘should’ be happy but you can’t help but compare yourself to them. Why don’t you look like them? Why aren’t you like them?

It’s time to be introspective and get in touch with the uncomfortable feelings you burrow because that is where healing and individuating begins.

Doubts come flooding in and shape shift into doubt and fear that hold you back from embracing your uniqueness and seeing what that would truly bring you.

What would you do if the world went silent?

If your parents, friends and social media stopped dictating what you should look like, be like, be interested in and value or you are deemed lesser than? When in the process of individuating all the noise in the world affects how you live, your emotions and results in internal battles that the same society will judge you for. This happens because there are no boundaries between your personal values, beliefs, views, goals and opinions and theirs. These boundaries should allow for you to learn and grow but not at the expense of losing yourself.

You may get lost in all the chaos but you are reading this for a reason. Don’t step down from what you were and through the process of shedding the template society drew on your skin it will come down to how bad do you want it? Are you willing to have those closest to you turn on you as they watch you change because in a society where everyone is trying to be the same embracing oneself is considered a rebellious act.

Fight for who you are even if it means losing the world you know because as you unlock your true self you will find a world far more beautiful. Remember, this is your life! You’re the author of your life don’t let someone else write it and read it to you as a twisted manual. Write your story and do so with love and faith in who you are and who you’re becoming because in what you say, think and believe lays the beauty of the law of attraction.

(Follow for upcoming blog posts: The power of affirmations, and more!)

Individuation, the process through which you will fully embody who you are and embrace your individuality, leaving you without care for societal standards and benchmarks. You will achieve a sense of differentiating your own identity from those of others, allowing you to consciously exist in the world as yourself.

The world needs you to be you, your gift, your talent, your purpose. In this alignment lays your true power. Embrace it.

Love and Peace –

Fayne A. Soida 🤎

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Building Self-Discipline

Self-Discipline is the ability to push yourself and take action regardless of one’s feelings. It is the willpower to overcome one’s weaknesses.

How many times have you set goals but then procrastinated? Be it a new year resolution organizing your room or to do the dishes before bed, self discipline is a skill we all need to master.

When you think ‘self-care’ what first comes to mind? Face masks and a candle lit bath? (Love this!) As much as this will be an aspect of self-care it is not all of it. The best self-care skills take self-discipline, purpose, hard work, commitment, and resilience.

Self-care is not an indulgence but rather a discipline.

Self-care requires a deep personal understanding of your reasons for self-improvement and your priorities. What is your why?

I’ve had to learn self-discipline and continue to master it but it was definetly after several attempts. I’d jump into what I needed to do with excitement but had trouble being consistent. I would plan to wake up at 5am but that seems to be when my bed is at it’s warmest and coziest so admittedly there were days I would press snooze and roll over. Sound familiar? I would start a new workout routine that would then be short lived. I was full of excuses and procrastination. All until I asked myself one question. How bad do I want it?

Self-care is not selfish. It is putting your best foot forward in all areas of your life.

I took a step back from writing and my site to focus on nurturing my mind, body and soul. Unhappy with where I was I took back my power, reminded myself that I create my own reality and began my blueprints. I took a step back, even from friends and began my introspective journey. You see, the time I took away wasn’t selfish, it was neccessary. I can now present my best self, show up as my highest self, help, support and help others to join this mindful and fullfilling journey.

Remember, you cannot pour from an empty cup.

  1. Check in with your body– Listen to your intuition, your inner guidance system. Is your soul at peace? Are you living a life you will benefit from?
  2. What do you want more? List down the things you would like to do more. Do you want to excerice? Meditate each morning? Start practicing Yoga? Do you want to feel confident in your skin? Do you want to lose or gain weight.
  3. What do you need more? Listen to your body and be honest with self, what is it that you need? Do you need to study more? Do you need a healthier diet and lifestyle? Are there habits you need to stop?
  4. Plan! – You have 24 hours in a day. How will you use them?

The 21/90 Rule. It take 21 days to build a habit and 90 days to build a lifestyle. Subscribe to my blog and join the #21daysofcare challenge. Choose you.

Mindset

What is your reason for change? What do you want to achieve? How bad do you want it ?

Intrinsic motivation will push you further than any external force ever will. Attach your deep desire of attaining your goals to the feelings of satisfaction and fulfilment as you work and achieve your goals.

Baby Steps

Break down large tasks into smaller tasks that you can do in steps. Need to clean your room? Start with one drawer at a time. Want to do an hour workout? Does the thought of it already have you dreading it?

Don’t get lost or intimidated by the bigger picture and forget the baby steps that will lead you there. Start Today! Put in that 10 or 20 minutes, because that is better than doing nothing at all.

List down the things you want to start doing (start small and add on). Here’s an example of mine:

  • Wake up at 5am
  • Workout
  • Meditate
  • Unplug
  • Study
  • Consistent Blogging
  • Healthy Diet
  • Draw/Paint

Always Be Better Than Yesterday

Missed out something on your list? No worry, new sunrise, new opportunities!

I Will Always Be Better than Yesterday.

Don’t Waste Time on Insignificant Matters

Avoid wasting time on things that will not be beneficial. It’s important to unwind and relax, that is part of self-care but do not over indulge in what is not nurturing you. (You could nurture this by closing Netflix after 2 episodes other than binge your show). Ensure you know what you value most in this life, use your energy and time accordingly.

“Self-discipline is when your conscience tells you to do something and you don’t talk back”

W.K Hope.

Get Enough Sleep

It is easy to get lost in your passion, to-do-list and lose track of time, working late nights and early mornings may seem productive to begin with but unless you give your body the rest it needs, you wil burn out. The optimum amount of sleep is 6-8 hours. Once an insomniac I have tried it all to try and get to sleep, maybe this will help

Unplug

Social media is a large part of our daily lives, especially now with minimal movement. This has resulted in an increase of time spent in front of screen, connecting through social media but are you allocating time to connect with self?

It is important to regularly unplug and spend time away from screens. Instead use that time to be productive or to spend time with self

It may be motivation that started it but it’s habit and discipline that keep you going!

– Love and Peace –

Fayne A. Soida

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Explore Your Relationship with the Moon

The power of the moon is deep within us.

Hello you, how are you doing, really? Let’s chat down below. I hope you are filling yourself with unconditional love, sending you all the best wishes! Need a boost of positivity? Click here

The moon has a powerful effect on us as human beings, affecting us emotionally and spiritually. I’ve always been drawn to the stars and moon. I’m the type of person that does a little happy dance and lights up because of the sky’s beauty. I have a beautiful memory of sitting with my uncle near my Father’s grave looking beyond the night into the wonders of the sky that reminds us the story is much grander than we imagine. In attempt to comprehend beyond our current understanding we must look within, as there is where the answers lay. We are connected.

Let’s explore

Across many traditions the connection to the moon has been linked with intuition and feminine energy. Now don’t get it wrong, this does not mean it’s solely female. Humans are dynamic beings; we are all made of masculine and feminine energy. The moon is a reflection of our personal self perception and how we handle our connection with self and our relationship with others and reflects how we handle different situations.

Almost every culture and faith around the world had an eye on the moon and its phases. Every full moon is an auspicious day for Buddhists, Ramadan and Passover observing the lunar calendar.

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Let’s dive into a little science.

The moon’s gravitational pull is responsible for the length of our days. Millions of years ago earth rotated 420 times per year rather than our current 365. With earth spinning faster the number of seconds each day is not uniform due to the movements of the earths core and changes to the atmosphere, oceans and tides and the moon’s gravitational pull. Do you see how powerful the moon is? Researchers theorise that we react to the subtle changes in the Earth’s magnetic field. The moons gravitational pull causes the change in tides in our oceans and as we are creatures of majorly water it’s gathered that the moon affects our emotions like it does our seas, heightening our emotions during a full moon and new moon.

After all, we are made up of 60% water. What do you think?

How has your sleep pattern been recently? Noticed a change or disturbance? Research shows we experience 30% less sleep during the full moon.

Haven’t quite noticed a difference? With an increase of urbanisation in modern culture we are so often illuminated by artificial light that our signals are obscured. As a way of building connecting try spend time in nature, soak in sun and moonlight.

Personally, it’s been a long couple of days, i’ve been tossing and turning, my sleep schedule is definitely off balance. A while back i started to keep track of my mood and noticed a lunar linked pattern. I started my year by the beautiful ocean surrounded by positive energy and my crystals, intentionally working on my connection with powers greater than, my connection to nature and the magic it holds. Subscribe below and make sure you don’t miss out on the next post on ways to spiritually connect to the moon.

Did you know ?

The word ‘lunar’ is derived from ‘lunaticus’ meaning ‘moonstruck’ as ancient civilizations believed the moon would affect people with periodic insanity and had a notion that the moonlight cause seizures in those with epilepsy.

What other beliefs do you know about the moon?

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-Love and Peace

🤍 Fayne Soida

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10 Life Lessons learned in 2021

Happy New Year you beautiful soul! Wishing you all the right energy, joy, peace, prosperity, health and wealth. I wish you your best year yet 😄 May you achieve your goals and dance in abundance! As we crossover it’s important to take a moment for yourself for introspection and mindfulness as you walk into 2022.

The past two years have been tough but in between the madness and chaos a beauty began to shine through like a flower in the rough people still manage to bloom. For one, now more than ever before people are becoming more mindful and self aware. The secret of law of attraction is out and more people are connecting within and harnessing their true source given power and the power of manifestation.

What do you think about the law of attraction?

I am a psychology major (currently pursuing a minor in chemical dependency), now in my final year and 2 years into the covid pandemic I notice the changed response when people hear this. People are less skeptical as mental illness turns into a crisis on it’s own. People became more aware of the importance of mental health and shifted their viewpoint which is a great big deal especially here in Kenya where the mental health sector is only now truly emerging illness is surrounded by stigma and discrimination.

Although we have faced obstacles here you are today, as long as you have life in you keep going!

Walking into 2022 I’ve loved my new year conversations with friends and family. New years come and go and ‘new year, new me’ posts flood the timeline. It is a powerful time full of so much energy as people make resolutions and goals. People are filled with determination and i love the energy! This one feels special, electric even with more intent, drive and manifestation.

As we look back here are 10 lessons I learned in 2021

1. Be grateful for the simple things

If the past 2 years has taught us anything it’s to be grateful for every little thing. Health, matters above all because as long as you have life in you, live, breathe, embrace each moment, love, create and make your mark in this world!

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2. Enjoy the journey

Life, what a complex process we are experiencing. Life is short, many many people went through their day not knowing it was their last. They thought tomorrow was promised but never got there.

You are still living, you have this moment, the ball is in your court. How are you going to spend your time here?

Do something bigger than yourself!

“I wish there was a way to know you’re in the good old days before you’ve left them.”

Andy Bernard, The Office

If the past 2 years have taught us anything it’s that health matters above all else, our own and your loved ones.

3. Everything can change in a split second

You have this moment, maybe you find yourself lost in yesterday, contemplating the past, maybe you’ve been through hell but you did not come this far to only make it this far!

This form is not for eternity, embrace the moment, embrace the people you have around you because truth is tomorrow isn’t promised.

4. Do not allow other people to validate you

Your value lies within yourself, do not expect or search for validation from others. Connect to who you truly are beyond the physical form, reach beyond to what truly matters, who you really are because once you are in your highest form and feel the magic within.

Related post: Individuation in a Uniform Society

5. You are more resilient than you think

6. Avoid the regrets of the dying

The cemetery is full of so much potential, a nurse asked her patients what they regret in life and the top 5 common results were:

  1. I wish i had the courage to live a life true to myself no the life others expect of me
  2. I wish i had the courage to express my feelings
  3. I wish i had stayed in touch with my friends
  4. I wish i had let myself be happier
  5. I wish i hadn’t worked so hard

Notice how none of them revolved around money?

7. Perspective matters

As you go through life it is important to remember the intricate details that made you who you are today, how your world connects and remember that everyone around you is experiencing life through a different lens.

8. There is more to you than you could ever imagine

Related post: Everything is Energy, Including You!

9. Connect to your purpose

Related post: How to Uncover Your True Life Purpose

10. How bad do you want it?

Be your own cheerleader, what goals do you have? What are you dreams?

You may have gone through hell but I believe in your inner Phoenix. Don’t feel sorry for yourself, instead reflect on the lessons learned and keep your head high.

As you walk through your 2022 do so with love, grace and positivity. Take care of yourself as you take care of others, taking the time for self love, introspection and self care is not selfish it is necessary for your well-being. This is the time of the year when people are hitting the gym and changing their diets, don’t forget to take care of your mental health too!

I’m truly excited about 2022! I am grateful for where i am now, who i am and who i am becoming. Filled and surrounded by all the right energy i am ready to work and achieve my goals! I plan to take my business to the next level, start and podcast and whip my mind and body into shape!

Want to follow the journey? Let’s show some love and support each other I love getting to know and connecting with each one of you 🙂 Such beautiful souls x

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I’m wishing you your best year yet!

Love & Peace

Soida.

How to Uncover Your True Life Purpose

Hello there you beautiful soul ! I hope you are blooming, may you continue to grow as we continue to dive deep into who you are far beneath the surface, because you are pure magic full of love and wonder. Thank you for joining me today 🙂

You are seeing this for a reason, a reminder that you are far more than the form which you embody. You are far beyond, time, structure and space. Absolute magic existing in this form, experiencing a human experience in realm.

Did You Know?

On average, a person spends 90,000 hours at work

A study done by Gallup states that only 15% of the world 1 billion full time workers are engaged and happy in their work.

Now, what comes to mind when you think about this particular part of the human experience, do you live your truth or is it simply for economic gain. I know, it’s not that simple, bills have to be paid but believe me in your passion lays all you dream of.

Let’s go through the noise and walk the path meant for you. By noise i mean the paths your parents, friends, or peers say you should take but instead following the true calling of your heart.

We live in a fast paced world,

breathe,

Inhale…1…2…3

Exhale…1…2…3

slow down,

take time for yourself.

Truly ask yourself..

What is Purpose?

What comes to mind when you think of purpose?

The true meaning behind purpose lays in the meaning behind one’s existence. Do you know the values that drive you what lights you up from deep within, not temporarily, do not confuse this for short term goal but rather a deep passion within, a fire within you that makes everything feel right.

Now maybe your desire is to live a calm simple life, that’s fantastic! Personally, I’m excited for when I build my house out in the trees by the beautiful lake. How do you envision your future? What do you see yourself doing? How will you feel?

Don’t feel pressured to build empires and move mountains, if that’s not your calling. It’s not about everybody playing out this grande scheme of events for all to see but listening and following ones heart and serving ones true purpose. Very often one may jump to thinking of materialistic gain, status and power but your true purpose is far greater than that.

Like the humble bee, flowing and carefree nurturing mother Earth. Did you know, without bees humans would cease to exists in approximately 5 years

Think back, what small decision if made differently would have altered your life? Big or small

If you’re not growing, you’re dying & I choose to bloom

Why Do You Need a Sense of Purpose?

Purpose gives you a reason to wake up in the morning, it fuels your soul and that shows in all that you do. Living with purpose influences your decisions because your goals shape you and guide you in the right direction

Finding Your Purpose

Are you filled with excitement when your alarm clock goes off? Do you wake up with a fire inside your soul? Rise like the sun and walk strong in your own path. Pay close attention to yourself, take the time to be in tune with your mind, body and soul. When living your purpose

  1. What do you love to do?
  2. What comes easily (naturally) to you?

What do you do the best with the least amount of effort? What makes it

Maybe you’re thinking its unconventional, maybe you’re not sure how to make money from it but don’t let that stop. Listen, listen closely to your intuition.

Do not fear what is yet to be done, human error is to think of a possible downfall but hun, what if you fly. Take on the sky and soar in your own power.

Your calling is not hidden in some far away destination but is found in the art of introspection

8 Tips on How to Find Your Purpose

Are you happy when the alarm goes off?

1. Be introspective

The answers you are looking for are within self, you are not lost neither is your purpose external to your being but actually deep within. Pay close attention to your internal dialogue and beliefs.

Do you have limiting beliefs?

Incase you missed it:

33 Affirmations that Will Help You

2. Explore your Interests

What comes naturally to you? What topics of conversation can have you going for hours!

3. Discover What You Love To Do

What do you enjoy doing in your free time? What did you enjoy as a child, very often our truth shines in our youth.

4. Read

A terrific way to tap into your purpose, allow your mind to explore different worlds and creation

5. Tell Your Story

Speak your truth, both hidden and showcased. I suggest free writing, allow your mind to flow, express yourself without limit and pour out your truth. You’ll be surprised by what you discover. The path of self individuation all begins with you and ends with you.

6. Surround Yourself with Positive People

The people around you influence your life, it’s important to have genuine people in your life who truly want the best for you.

7.Listen to What Other People Appreciate About You

Personally, i’m rather introverted but people noted how i would change and fully be in my element when giving back tot he community in whatever form it may be.

8. Community

There is immense power in community and I love the one we have created here! Thank you all so much for you kind words, I am grateful and happy that I have been able to make a difference and play a role in your journey.

May we continue to grow, wish you all the best

Until next time 🙂

-Fayne Soida x

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Claim it- Bet on Yourself

All you want is waiting for you on the other side of fear

Hello there my loves! How are you doing lately? Let me know down below 🙂 Let’s chat. I hope you are doing great! Walking into the new month with your head high and open to receive your blessings. What are 8 things you are grateful for, no matter how big or small, take a moment and think about it. Focusing your energy on gratitude raises your vibration allowing you to flow at a high frequency.

Each day i open my day with a list of gratitude for yet another day, for my loved ones and blessings. I am grateful for this community, for those of you who subscribed and continue to return, my pop ins and if it’s your first read welcome to the community!

In case you missed it: Journey of Self-Love, Individuating in a Uniform Society

My aim is to create an open, supportive, encouraging community where we help each other as we continue our journey as we learn and grow. I’ve been doing great lately, got a lot going on but in the best way 🙂 We last talked about your shadow self and putting in the shadow work. I found that it was a new term for many of you. I hope it encouraged you too look deeper within self.

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The journey of self love and self discovery truly is an amazing journey as you feel the change within self, it is the start of so much more. I encourage you to work on yourself, you are worth it!

Thinking about the future can be frightening, i get that. Maybe you’re afraid of the unknown, fear of what’s to come and what may be. This is a reminder, to think all that but not jump to the worst case scenarios (do you have the tendency to overthink?) think of all the magic that awaits you.

All you want is waiting for you on the other side of fear

Where do you see yourself in the next 3 years? 5 years? What life do you see yourself living? What are you doing? How are your days spent?Not many people pay close attention to this question but here’s the secret to it.

I get it, it’s not as simple as it sounds. Maybe you visualization is by doubt and uncertainty. Here, i say connect to your inner child the answers you are searching for are within you. Silence the noise and aim for the highest. Maybe you can’t visualize it exactly just yet but that’s fine that’s just the start. Maybe you don’t quite the plan fully together yet, not certain of the steps to get there and that’s fiiine! Knowing what you desire pushes you

The world returns what you give out, we’re talking law of attraction. Have you practiced the law of attraction? Take the time to visualize what you want in your life and unlock the secret to manifestation. Visualization is an immensely powerful tool.

STRIVE FOR PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION

BET ON YOURSELF

It’s time to bet on yourself! What life are you trying to create? Take the step and be willing to evolve. Humans are ever evolving, not stagnant in one state but rather flowing like a stream.

That goal you have in mind that you keep procrastinating? Well here is the hard truth that gets me moving, tomorrow is not promised! What do you want to do or accomplish while on this earth? Now are you interested in your goal or are you committed?

“Only put off until tomorrow what you are willing to die having left undone”

Pablo Picasso

How bad do you want it? Personally, I know what i cannot leave undone, I know my purpose and feel it to my core. At a very young age I found my purpose, my purpose in this life on Earth is to heal. I have seen the difference i make and i embrace that. Through my words and my future private practice I will connect to millions and help those in need, those feeling confused or alone, those who need a little extra push on their journey. I will have a great powerful impact on society. I will build a children’s home and have a large NGO bettering lives across the globe.

Do you believe in yourself? Claim it, put it out there and watch the universe work! Comment down below ‘I will…(a goal you will accomplish)’

As Author Didacus Masanja put it in the Octal Rules, “Is it an interest or a commitment”. It comes down to your level of commitment to your future, your purpose and goals. Do you have the fire within to push to what you love to keep you disciplined enough to pursue it because hard work beats talent any day.

Naturally i love my sleep but when that alarm goes off at 5am i’ve got a choice and you do too. I won’t lie it’s not too simple but the fire within you has got to be far too grand for the blanket to put off as you attempt to roll over when you press snooze.

Don’t be too hard on yourself. Take note of the little steps you take day by day because it may not feel big in the moment but look back and see how far you’ve come. They do add up, give yourself a pat on the back!

Remember, you don’t have to have everything figured out right this second, you are an open evolving soul, growing, flowing and existing in the beautiful journey of life. Stand tall in your power, allow your imagination and creativity to flow, you have no limits. Have faith in yourself, have faith that you are on the right path regardless. Everyday get up and fearlessly show up to do what to you were called to do in this world. Live your purpose. Move with the understanding that you are on the right path, aligned and a true visionary.

With that, I too will bet on myself. I have enjoyed getting to know you, such wonderful souls from all over the world! I’m truly excited for this next chapter and looking forward to the growth of our community. I am truly grateful for each one of you, my readers really are fantastic! Those who follow my twitter (Soida.Writes) saw my little teasers on my big announcement and here it is!

AUDIO BLOG IS UP!

Avaialble on Spotify, Google Podcasts, Anchor and PocketCasts. Apple podcasts coming soon!

I’m thrilled to announce my podcast is now on air! Listen to the trailer here. SIP with Soida a home of Self-love, individuation and positivity. I look forward to this next chapter. Yet another way to connect to each one of you as we continue to grow and learn. The audio blog will have more detail and conversation so make sure you don’t miss out! Follow SIP with Soida on different platforms ready for the soon to come first episode and follow my Instagram and Twitter join the conversation 🙂

Are you betting on yourself? Let me know how. Research has shown the immense power of a supportive community. Let’s support each other as we push the boundaries!

Always remember that you are braver than you believe stronger than you seem and smarter than you think

Christopher Robin

SIP with SOIDA – Self-love. Individuation. Positivity

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Benefits of Shadow Work & 32 Prompts You To Help You on Your Journey

Hello you 🙂 I hope you have been well, sending love and blessings your way. I wish you all the best in your journey and encourage you to continue on your path and show up as the highest version of self!

Do you love yourself?

Do you know about your shadow self and shadow work? Missed the post? Click here.

Self love flows much deeper than the surface, self love walks and face routines are great but don’t forget to work on your inner being and discover more about who you truly are on a much deeper level. This means acknowledging even the most unattractive parts of who you are. Shadow work is crucial in one’s life because whether we like it or not a shadow self is subconsciously created and ignoring it doesn’t mean it will not affects you or show up in negative traits.

“The shadow is needed now more than ever. We heal the world when we heal ourselves, and hope shines brightest when it illuminates the dark.”

Sasha Graham, Dark Wood Tarot

What comes to mind when you hear the term ‘shadow work’? Have you given it a try? Let me know your experience in the comments below. I am very happy to hear my last post got many of you started on your shadow work journey 🙂 For you to truly benefit from this practice it is necessary that you put in the work. I recommend getting a journal as it is a safe space as well as meditation which we will get into in a future post.

Benefits of Shadow Work

  1. Improved mental well being.
  2. Improved relationships with others.
  3. Help you find the root cause of your problems and traumas.
  4. Increased creativity.
  5. Improved self awareness.
  6. Creates awareness of toxic patterns you are repeating, so you can change them.
  7. More confidence to be your true self.
  8. Clearer perception with which you view the world.
  9. Increased empathy and compassion.
  10. Help you find your purpose in life.

Shadow work journal prompts are an amazing tool for beginners as they encourage you down a path of self awareness and self improvement as you work on bettering yourself and working through your emotions, past traumas and events as you discover more of who you are show up as the highest version of self.

You came into this world whole, you were born complete, surrounded by pure energy. Unfortunately this state of being does not last long as the world begins to influence you. The shadow self is born in our early childhood as you are affected by the interactions of those closest to you such as your caregivers, parents, siblings, uncles and aunties. This subconscious shadow is created when caregivers highlight parts of who you are as good and other parts as bad. As you go through experiences you subconsciously adopt these beliefs as your own and suppress parts of self you deem negative.

How Shadow Work Affects You

Initially shadow work may seem daunting or maybe you’re not yet convinced of its importance. If not click here to read more about it. Shadow work is about looking within and facing the most vulnerable, and possibly shameful parts of who you are. Facing your shadow self is as simple as acknowledging and facing your least attractive qualities.

Shadow Traits

  • Envy/Jealousy
  • Defensive
  • Obsessed with appearance/How people see them/dependent on praise
  • Judgemental
  • Arrogant/Egotistic
  • Anger
  • Over competitive
  • Selfish
  • Stubborn
  • Manipulative

32 Shadow Work Prompts

  1. What are you most grateful for?
  2. What makes you feel the happiest?
  3. Write a letter to a younger you. (10 years ago)
  4. Who do you want to become?
  5. What are you most afraid of?
  6. How do you perceive failure?
  7. Do you often find yourself over-thinking what you’ve said or how you’ve acted?
  8. What are the first signs that your mental health is dipping?

“One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light but by making the darkness conscious.”

Carl Jung.
  1. What triggers you?
  2. What do you think are the worst traits a person can have?
  3. What do you think is your worst trait?
  4. What makes you judgmental?
  5. What misconceptions do people have about you?
  6. How do you feel about who you are as a human?
  7. What are your core values?
  8. When are you hardest on yourself? Where do you think this stems from?
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  1. What emotion do you try to avoid? (sadness, anger)
  2. Why are you afraid of expressing this emotion?
  3. Who last belittled your emotions? (Or regularly downplays them)
  4. What emotions are you quite comfortable with?
  5. How do you enforce boundaries? How do you react when people overstep them?
  6. What is your favourite childhood memory?
  7. Were you ever wronged as a child?
  8. How did you process emotions as a child, teenager?

I forgive myself one day at a time until it’s complete

  1. In what ways are you privileged?
  2. What is the biggest promise you made to yourself, and broke?
  3. Have you ever been betrayed? What would you say to the person?
  4. Who has let you down the most in your life?
  5. How are you letting yourself down, at this moment in your life?
  6. What is your most shameful memory? How have you changed since then?
  7. What do you need to forgive yourself for?
  8. Think of a relationship you walked away from. Write down the reasons it was a positive choice.

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Sending love and Peace your way

-Fayne Soida xx

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10 Ways to Help You Recharge Your Energy

Hello there 😄 welcome to my page and for my subscribers welcome back. I hope you’ve been doing well and taking care of yourself. We’re living in a fast paced world and it’s important that you take the time to recharge before your burnout. How have you been feeling recently, really? Listen to your body… Have you been feeling drained? Here are 10 ways to help you recharge your personal battery.

“If you neglect to recharge a battery, it dies. And if you run full speed ahead without stopping for water, you lose momentum to finish the race.”

– Oprah Winfrey

1. Gratitude exercise

When I’ve had a hard day or in a tough situation I’ve found that taking deep breathes and intentionally shifting my focus to something positive has been great help. Finding a silver lining or taking a moment to focus on what you are grateful for in that day and in your life that it was a bad moment it’s not a bad life.

For more on Gratitude: Click here

2. Begin Your Day with a Stretch  

Start your day with a good refreshing stretch. Stretching your major muscle groups when you get up will leave you feeling refreshed and ready for the day. Studies show that stretching helps you relax, reduce pain of joints and lower back as well as increase flexibility.

Stretching helps release the tension in your body. Naturally, your neck and joints store tension due to our bodies natural animalistic response of ‘fight or flight’ . It’s not about straining your body, I recommend you give it a try even a simple 10 minutes will do! 😉

I enjoy a good morning stretch and yoga practice. I recommend giving it a try, can start with the basics such as the downward-facing dog, child’s pose and cobra pose.

3. 20-20-20 break

 Basically, after every 20 minutes spent using a screen you should try to look away at something that is 20 feet away from you for a total of 20 seconds. Excess screen time is harmful to our eyes as the blue light damages your retina. Be sure to take time away from your screens

Between blogging, online classes and work I spend a lot of time in front of a screen. How much time do you think you spend looking at your laptop in a day? What about your phone?

These days many of us spend quite a bit of time in front of screens which is draining to your system. Rather than spend you time scrolling through social media or playing a game on your phone how about take the time to recharge your personal batteries. Unplugging makes you more aware of self and surroundings, connecting you to your present.

4. Journal

Journaling creates a safe space for you to express yourself and release of all you make have been holding onto both consciously and subconsciously. Free writing will create honesty within self, laying out the truth for you to see and make the next move.

Here’s a journal prompt to help you; explore the ‘Whys’ of your life. Why do you do what you do? Why does your body feel drained?

More on Journaling: Here

5. Calming Shower

Showers have the power to reset your energy levels. What do you prefer, a cold or hot shower? Which do you have more often? I lean more towards hot showers but once in a while like to surprise my system.

Did you know showers have been linked to reducing anxiety? Having a cold shower increases the endorphins in your brain (the feel good hormones) which helps in reducing feelings of depression and anxiety. While the body’s natural reaction to the warm comfortable feeling of a warm shower gets your muscles to relax.

Do you prefer a shower or bath? Create a nice warm relaxing environment, have beautiful lighting, perhaps candles. Exfoliate your body and feel refreshed with your soft skin now released of all tension. Start your playlist or get lost in the wonder of your mind

6. Dance

Dancing provides an escape for your mind. A practice that has been around for thousands of years as a form of self-expression and unity. Studies have shown that dancing is beneficial for your brain and mental health as it helps reduce stress levels and works as an effective form of exercise so that’s a plus

7. Spa Time

Treat yourself to some relaxation time. It’s important to do something for yourself, be at an establishment or pampering yourself at home, go for it. Create a calm relaxing environment. Get into your robe, light the scented candles or get out the essential oils out. Aromatherapy is beneficial for both your mental and physical health, improving state of mind, body and spirit. Use an exfoliating scrub, cucumber on your eyes, face mask and relax. Yes, you too men, self care has no gender you too deserve some pampering! Go out and get that manicure/pedicure.

“Taking time to rest, renew, and refresh yourself isn’t wasted time. Recharge. Choose what energizes you.”

– Melody Beattie, Journey to the Heart

8. Give

It’s been found that a selfless act lifts one’s energy. Not necessarily a grand act or donation but down to a simple extension of self to help another with no expectation from them. Giving to others has a calming effect on your body, slows heart rate, lowers stress levels and blood pressure while activated the regions of your mind associated with pleasure and social connection.

I am the proud founder of a charity that strives to end Female Genital Mutilation, Forced Marriages and Period Poverty. For more information, click here

9. Get in touch with nature

I know you’ve heard this before but wait, hear me out! When was the last time you went for a walk? When were you last in between the trees? Not walking with focus on a destination but enjoying each step and inhale, fresh air filling your lungs. Walk with the intention to enjoy each step, being mindful of the situation and being present, listening to the sounds around you and enjoying the beautiful surroundings, the contrast in the colors and the birds in the trees.

10. Bring nature indoors

We’re in a fast paced world where mental health problems are prevailing so it is important to take care of your mind and body. Recently we have been spending more time indoors and it is important to create a refreshing breathable environment.

Indoor plants such as the aloe vera, jasmine plant and snake plant among others are beneficial to your health as they cleanse the air and produce oxygen. (more detail on the benefits of indoor plants soon)

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Maybe you thrive on being busy or you’re caught up in this fast pace world – we all in a break sometimes! Taking time for yourself doesn’t necessarily meaning hitting pause for a week it’s about prioritizing yourself.

20 mins a day, think you can do that? 😜 How often do you take time for yourself?

I wish you all the best on your journey xx

Love and Peace – Amani

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7 ways For You To Protect Your Energy

Hello you! I hope you’ve been doing great, blessed with another day and I am more than happy to have you here! I enjoy reading your comments and interacting with you.

On a previous post we jumped into the reality of our existence. We opened up our minds to see beyond the physical world we so often tend to focus on. Today’s society is so fixated on body image we forget that honestly, appearance is the most boring part of who we are. You are so much more! At the end of the day what truly matters?

Your soul.

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Self care includes taking care of your mental, spiritual and physical health. So just like exercise and skin care routines, cleansing your energy, your soul is also important. Have you ever noticed how happy people have a natural glow? Vibrant and confident whilst others may give of negative or bitter vibes? What you’re sensing is their energetic body.

As we continue this journey I continue to encourage you to take the time to be introspective, know who you are beneath it all and connect to your higher self. Being mindful and self aware is beneficial to you, your physical body is made up on energy and it picks up on other frequencies around you which then reflects in your physical form. I recommend keeping a journal as it encourages you to be more self aware and mindful. Want to know types of journaling? Click here

Why it’s Important to Protect Your Energy

What would you say your energy is like? What would others say?

Too often people find themselves allowing others to influence their energy. Yes, sometimes it can be a good thing but sometimes it is detrimental. Think about the people you spend the most time with, those you talk to the most and interact with. What’s their energy like? Be sure to notice your energy around certain people, some will elevate your energy whilst some are ‘energy vampires’.

It’s important to be intentional with your energy as you attract what you give out. Throughout your day you encounter different frequencies and pick up on them so just like you shower and brush your teeth, don’t forget to cleanse your energy.

Have you ever noticed your energy change? Are you an empath? Let me know your experience in the comments below 🙂

I am an empath and therefore i’m quite sensitive to energy. Being an empath means I easily sense other people’s auras (frequency) and if i’m not careful it affects me. A while back I was constantly on reaction mode until the secret was revealed, the anger and frustration wasn’t mine, it was the energy around me.

For example, when i’m around many people I get drained by all the different frequencies around me (especially if they’re negative) and will need a cleanse right after. I do not tolerate conversations that anger because because quite frankly, it’s not worth me risking my energy. You know that feeling of negativity that lingers during and after an argument? Yeah, I hate it and therefore i take a deep breath and walk away from what shifts my balance.

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Ways to Protect Your Energy

1). What are your triggers?

Pay attention to how you are feeling in different situations, environments and around different people. What makes you feel anxious or stressed? What frustrates or angers you? Knowing your triggers allows you to get ahead of the problem and know which areas of yourself to work on.

2). Control Your Ego

Do you react to negative influences? Do you obsess over it? Are you easily drawn into arguments? Love, your wasting your energy on things that do not matter. How about this, if it won’t matter in 5 years let it be because whenever you react to toxic energy, that is your ego at work! This may be tricky, i recommend taking a deep breath, quickly pause before you react. Is it worth wasting your energy? Is it worth lowering your own vibration? I highly doubt it. Don’t run your mouth, that isn’t your frequency, let them be and separate your energy from theirs.

3). Find Your Happy Place

Where is your happy place? Close your eyes and visualize the place that gives you the most peace. A place you love, where you feel calm, connected and safe. Is it in bed under your fluffy covers? Is it by the beach? For me my happy place is between the trees, i love hiking, the fresh air and clarity of it all. Visit your happy place as often as you can and when at a distant, close your eyes and visualize it. In as much detail as you can, take deep breathes and feel your energy recharge.

4). Visualize

Visuals connect your mind and body a connection that is powerful and crucial. Often I refer to visualizing your highest self, what does that person look like? The answer will differ between people but i believe we all want positive vibes! Use your power of visualization to protect yourself from negative energy. As you say your affirmations and positively talk to self visualize your energy field growing and glowing.

Take a deep breath, inhale..1…2…3… exhale. Allow you positive energy field to grow. Inhale…1…2…3… exhale. When you feel like you’re with someone affecting your energy, take deep breaths and picture their energy bouncing off your force field, unable to get to you.

5). De-clutter your zones

Your environment influences your mind and energy, ensure you have an organized room and office space. Pay close attention to your environment to protect your mental state as chaos and disorder only add to mental stress. Get rid of all the clutter in your life that isn’t good for you and yesss that means people too! This is for real life and social media too – unfollow and unfriend toxic people. It may be difficult but love, I promise you it’ll be worth it!

6). Set Boundaries

Stop giving away your energyyy! You are unique with a glowing frequency don’t lose that for someone else. A lot of people find difficult in saying no but setting boundaries is important! It may be difficult but remember the consequences of feeding on another’s energy. In life you will interact with many people, peers, family, coworkers but remember, you can’t pour from an empty cup. You have to love yourself first and really want to do so.

7). Trust your intuition

Ever got that gut feeling you can’t quite place? That’s your intuition reading the situation, listen to your instincts and trust them. Does the situation or person make you feel frustrated, anxious, drained, overwhelmed? Pay close attention to it and either limit your interaction or stay away from it.

Connecting with self- mind, body and soul will increase your intuition and self awareness. Creating a sense of mindfulness that will motivate you to protect your energy. Especially if you are sensitive and an empath.

Protecting your energy takes time and practice, but it is crucial for both your mental and physical health.

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Love and Peace

-Fayne A Soida🤍-

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33 Prompts on Self Discovery and Self Reflection

Hello you! How are you doing, really? Let’s chat! I really enjoy interacting with each one of you! Welcome back or welcome to the family! We have been on a self love and discovery journey and it’s time for more self awareness and introspection.

Continuing the Journal Series, we’ve been chatting on journaling. Through that i’m happy for those it encouraged to start and I’m happy you are benefiting from it. Have you ever journaled? If so, how often? If not, what’s going through your mind? Let me know in the comments 🙂

Journaling has an impact on mental health, it creates a space where you can be open, vulnerable, it’s your private space. You see, very often we cover up who we truly are, covering our ‘flaws’, fears and doubts. Journaling creates a space for you to offload and understand yourself on a depper level. How are you feeling? Why?

It gives you a place to offload. Don’t think too much about it, it’s quite simple

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Step 1 – Get a notebook of any kind!

Step 2 – Free write, pick up a pen and allow yourself to flow in your private space

It may feel strange as you begin the practice but i recommend two major things to look out for. Firstly, create a calm and relaxing environment. You are more likely to be honest in your scripting when you are alone and in your energy as compared to in a room with someone else present as that may have you keeping your shield up.

Fill your paper with the breathings of your heart.

– William Wordsworth (English Romantic Poet)
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33 Journal Prompts to Inspire You!

  1. How are you doing, really?

2. When was the last time you sat quietly observing your thoughts and feelings?

3. Describe yourself in 10 words.

4. How would other people describe you? Why?

5. Describe 5 nice things that happened to you in the past week.

6. Describe 5 nice things you want to do next week.

7. What do you appreciate most about your personality?

8. What values matter to you the most in life? (honesty, integrity, loyalty, etc.)

9. Do your actions align with those values?

10. What life event(s) played a role in shaping you into who you are today?

11. What is one of your earliest memories?

12. Write a letter to your past self. (5 years ago and to 6 year old you)

13. Write a letter to your future self. (5 years and 10 years from now)

14. If you could give advice to your younger self, what would you say?

15. Where are you when you feel the most in your element?

16.What activities set your soul on fire?

Your journal is like your bestfriend, you dont have to pretend with it, you can be honest and write exactly how you feel

– Coach Bukola Ongunwale

17. Are you happy?

18. What does happiness mean to you?

19.What activities did you enjoy as a kid?

20. In this moment, what are 5 things you are grateful for?

21. How would your best day go?

22. What does your dream life look life?

23. What limiting beliefs are holding you back from your dream life?

24. What self-sabotage actions are holding you back?

25. What are you goals in life? Do you take risks?

26. Do you realistically give yourself enough time to achieve our goals?

27. Are your goals things YOU want or things you’ve been told you should want?

28. How do you relieve stress? Does it make you do anything unhealthy?

29. In this moment, what are you feeling; emotionally, physically and spiritually?

30. Are you connected to your spiritual being?

31. Allow your inner critic to speak, let them tell you where you are going wrong.

32. How can you take better care of yourself?

33. What self-care practices will you try today?

Really take the time to think and journal your answers, that way you can truly reflect on it. Journaling will allow your mind to explore the answer further and some may shock you! I’ve had journals for many years and it’s always interesting taking a trip down memory lane. It allows you to compare thought patterns, see the growth and there’s just something special about written memories, what a personal and raw medium.

I wish you the best as you go through your journey. One thing, always be raw with yourself, that’s the greatest thing about jorunaling, it’s where you can be most vulnerable. Way too often do people hide who they are beneath the surface, write all that your mouth is unble to say and between those lines your path will become clear.

Love and Peace

Fayne A. Soida 🙂

Stay tuned for more as we continue to look within. Next we dive into self love and self care as well as tackle some journaling myths. Also, i’d love to get in touch with you on Twitter and Instagram so we can have more conversation and build a strong community! See you there 🤍

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